Healing for Anxious Attachment

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A good healing for anxious attachment.  Having an anxious attachment style can significantly impact your relationships by causing you to crave constant reassurance, fear abandonment, become overly clingy, and overreact to perceived threats, often leading to jealousy, distrust, and difficulty maintaining healthy boundaries with your partner.  You may struggle to feel secure in the relationship even when there’s no apparent reason for concern.  You might be hypervigilant for signs of rejection or disinterest, even in small actions or behaviors from your partner.  Heal the need for constant reassurance.  This looks like asking your partner to reaffirm their love and commitment, seeking validation to combat your fears of abandonment.  Heal fear of rejections.  Even minor perceived slights or lack of attention can trigger anxiety and feelings of insecurity.  Heal clinginess.  You might become overly dependent on your partner, needing frequent contact and feeling uncomfortable with space in the relationship.  Heal jealousy and possessiveness.  You may become easily jealous of other people in your partner’s life, interpreting interactions as potential threats to the relationship.  Heal overanalyzing behavior.  You might constantly analyze your partner’s actions and words, searching for hidden meanings or signs of disinterest.  Heal any difficulty with conflict.  Conflicts can be very distressing and may lead to intense emotional reactions due to fear of losing your partner.  Chronic pain is a common sign of attachment trauma in anxious attachers. Anxious attachers are unsure if their caregiver can adequately meet their needs in childhood, which can cause a cumulative build-up of stress over time, as they fear for their survival.  As a result, anxious attachers can develop an overactive stress response system, which may result in long-term chronic pain.  Great for healing the nervous system.  An anxious attacher’s overactive stress response system is also behind another sign of attachment trauma in anxious attachers–hypervigilance.  Due to their heightened stress system, anxious attachers are often extremely sensitive to relational cues and their environment.  They may be constantly on the lookout for signs of rejection, abandonment, or threats.  This can cause problems in romantic relationships, as anxious attachers may become jealous or overly concerned about small details instead of being present in the moment.   Anxious attachers also display self-sabotage as a sign of attachment trauma, but not in the same way as avoidant attachers.  Instead of blocking behaviors, self-sabotage typically manifests as reassurance-seeking behaviors, overthinking and overanalyzing situations, acting in ways that conform to their negative self-beliefs, and suppressing their own needs to accommodate others’ desires.  These behaviors are often driven by a fear of abandonment, which typically develops due to the unreliability of their caregivers when they were a child.  Heal the behaviors and patterns that anxious attachment triggers.